Caregiving

As a counselor specializing in play therapy, most of my blog posts relate to children's issues or parenting.  This post is a bit more personal, but I want to share it because I think it will be an encouragement to you.  I have been taking some time this summer to reflect on my role as caregiver for an elderly relative.  Much like caring for children, this takes time and energy.  It is also a job without a policies and procedures manual or step by step TikTok videos.  As caregivers of young or old, we face uncertainty and stress at times, and the responsibilities can be overwhelming.  In my journey to find balance between providing the best care possible, and taking care of myself, I have learned that I need support - a lot of support!  I began to apply what I know as a therapist - that talking helps.  As I shared my challenges, I discovered that many others are dealing with the same struggles.  Talking with others in the same situation has helped me feel less burdened and isolated.  I also find that friends who are dealing with similar issues often have practical suggestions that are very helpful.  I have learned that I need to make sure I take time to nurture relationships and do things that bring me joy and energy and reduce stress.  Caregivers and parents risk burnout and more serious mental health challenges if we don't have some of these safeguards in place.  If you are an elder caregiver, or parent, or both, and you notice you are feeling overly exhausted, stressed, anxious, irritable or lack motivation, please ask for help.  Reach out to those around you and share your load.  Find a support group.  If you feel like you are struggling with more serious issues such as postpartum depression, ask for professional help.  Because everyone benefits when you are in a good place.